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Marriage - John C. Kirk

Sep. 13th, 2005

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From:bazzalisk
Date:September 13th, 2005 01:24 am (UTC)
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Well, monoamory is an odd term - but polygamy and polyamory most certainly do not refer to the same thing.

In general Polygamy is a single marriage unit consisting of multiple partners - whereas Polyamory is a broader term which tends to be used for the "web" style relationships which occur when A can be involved with B, B be involved with C, but C not necessarily be involved with A.
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From:dwagon
Date:September 13th, 2005 08:45 am (UTC)
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iirc, polygamy specifically refers to one man with multiple female partners (polyandry is the reverse). Hence the use of polyamory to make it clear that there may be multiple members of either sex involved, and in a web-like manner like Baz said.

As for why monogamy as opposed to monoamory? I don't really know why, but it may be as simple as the fact that monogamy is the far more common term.
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From:bazzalisk
Date:September 13th, 2005 05:05 pm (UTC)
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That's the common usage, certainly. However I'm pretty sure that in technical anthropological usage polygamy can refer to either, and the specific term for one husband, several wives is polygyny (which is a mouthful, to say the least).

The fact that Polygyny is so much more common than Polyandry has led to the sloppy usage of Polygamy when Polygyny is meant, and the misunderstanding of this has lead to the popular usage of Polygamy to mean only Polygyny, when it was supposed to refer to either.

I believe this causes a hell of a lot of confusion ;)
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From:baratron
Date:September 14th, 2005 12:47 am (UTC)
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Some poly people do talk about monoamory.

For me, it was another one of those things like gender neutral pronouns. After struggling with 'zie'and 'zir' for a few months, I went "sod this, English already has a perfectly good GNP" and switched to 'they' and 'their'.

If you go round talking about polyamorists and monoamorists (monamorists?), everyone thinks you're a freak before you've even started your spiel :)
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From:alexmc
Date:September 13th, 2005 08:52 am (UTC)
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In other words monogamous has a real meaning which is the same as the one poly people mean, and polygamy also has a real meaning but it is totally different to the one poly people mean.


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From:baratron
Date:September 14th, 2005 12:11 am (UTC)
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Polygamy specifically means multiple marriages.

I am polyamorous (in love with multiple people), but I don't desire polygamy because I only want to marry my life partner/s. So far, I only have one life partner, so I only want one marriage.

My other partner is someone with whom I have a loving relationship and intend to be with forever or as long as it still feels good, but our relationship is less committed than life partnership. We would both go quite thoroughly nuts if we shared finances at all or lived together more than a few days a week.

Polygyny means one person having multiple wives, polyandry means one person having multiple husbands. Typically polygyny refers to a man having multiple wives, but it doesn't have to - "and the princess fell in love with the other two princesses and they all lived happily ever after" is a badge I have, and could describe polygyny.
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