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Marriage - John C. Kirk — LiveJournal
Sep. 13th, 2005
12:16 am -
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September 13th, 2005 08:59 am (UTC)
> "Do you take this [man|woman] to be
> your lawfully wedded [husband|wife],
> to have and to hold,
> for richer, for poorer,
> in sickness and in health,
> forsaking all others,
> until death parts you?"
I think that *all* of these aspects are optional but should be totally agreed upon by both parties concerned.
You can have a non legal marriage ceremony if that is what you want.
The "forsaking all others" is optional and works for a small percentage of the population BUT IT MUST BE SORTED OUT FIRST and not halfway through a marriage.
The "until death" is the bit that most irritates me. Does anyone actually believe it? I think that this is a major point behind marriage and if there is any possibility of a divorce then you should sort things out beforehand with per-nuptuals.
I like the idea of a five year contract - but have not heard of it happening in real life.
> vaguely coherent form
September 14th, 2005 12:43 am (UTC)
I agree with everything you've said here (
Something interesting I found out at the weekend. Quakers have no ministers or clergy - any member of the congregation is welcome to lead the service if they feel moved or called upon by God to do so. As a result, in the Quaker marriage ceremony, the couple marry themselves.
I like the idea of you declaring yourselves married a
better than the idea of an external person declaring you married.